How 5 Simple Self-Coaching Steps Can Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Successful
Do you pay credence to New year’s resolutions, to be more specific creating goals for the year ahead? Are you someone who makes grand declarations about the things that you are going to do, with a celebratory glass in one hand yet in the cold stark light of day, find these things are neglected because, life gets in the way? Then here are five simple Self-Coaching steps, that will lead to success in achieving your goals for the year head.
1. Are you ready?
“The secret of getting ahead, is getting started”, Mark Twain
There is absolutely no point embarking on a new venture, or making changes to your lifestyle if you are not ready. If you do try to succeed when you are not fully committed, it is likely you will feel like giving up, even before you have started.
A useful way to test your readiness is to consider using a 1 to 10 scaling and ask yourself the following questions:
1) How important to you is the change you are going to make?
2) How confident you are that you can commit to this?
Depending on your scoring, this scaling tool will help to expose any barriers that may prevent you from achieving your goal. Once you have highlighted those things that may blocking you, you can begin to look at ways around this, and start to access if these blocks are valid enough for you not to move forward. By removing any obstacles, you can set the path clear to embark on your goal change.
2. See it and believe it!
“There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something.” Henry Ford
Imagining how you would feel, once you have accomplished your goal is a good place to kick start your action plan. Apart from being a great motivator which can move you beyond procrastination, this is a common technique used by athletes where studies have proven that focusing on the visualisation of success improves concentration and ability. This technique can also help reduce fear and anxiety because when you can see yourself achieving what you want, and exploring what this success would mean to you, the goal becomes far more reachable.
3. Be specific
“Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.” Brian Tracy, Eat that Frog
If you are looking to do the same things as last year, yet feel demotivated as you feel like you are repeating yourself. Or, you believe discarding what didn’t work is a better way forward, then don’t lose heart. Resetting your goals, or creating new ones by using the SMART goals model can be effective in helping you crystallise what it is you want:
S – specific, are your goals simple and stretching?
M – measurable, can these can be monitored?
A – achievable, can you reach your goal/ do you have the resources?
R – realistic and relevant, can you commit to what you have set out to do?
T – timescale, can your goals be achieved in the time you have set?
The benefits of following this method of goal setting is to ensure you have clarity and awareness about what you want and why you want it and how you will achieve it.
“If you never change your mind, why do you have one” Edward De Bono
When it comes to your New Year’s resolutions, if you thought you wanted to do one thing, and it turns out once you have assessed your readiness, and followed the SMART goal model, and you find you have a preference to do something else – then go for it. It is only yourself that needs to validate what you do and the course of action you take. Following your instinct with the things that make you happy will make you more motivated and committed to the process, than doing something for the sake of it.
5. Celebrate the small stuff
“Happiness in not something readymade, it comes from your own actions” – Dalai Lama
Celebrate your progress. It is important to enjoy your achievements, no matter how small, as this helps build confidence and inspires you to continue. As human beings, we have the propensity to minimise or dismiss the mini successes in our every day and disappointment can creep in. Yet it is in the doing that we become better, and more practiced – and this creates happiness, so whether you are learning something new, or making significant changes make note of the incremental steps you make along the way.
It is not through a lack of intention, that our best wishes for ourselves do not happen, it is often down to our approach, so by following these simple steps you can self-coach yourself to making a success of the things you set out to do.
- Testbed if you are ready to achieve your goal
- Beat procrastination by visualising your success
- Reset your goals so they are specific and achievable
- Follow your instinct with the things you want
- Celebrate small victories as the success in the doing