What You Can Learn From Emma Stone, Gigi Hadid, Mindy Kaling, Tina Fey and Lady Gaga
One secret to success? Learn from your stars! The ability of young women today to pursue careers of their own choosing is a hard-won right earned by decades of activism. Below are examples of Emma Stone, Gigi Hadid, Mindy Kaling, Tina Fey and Lady Gaga – leading women in pop culture who have come to dominate their industries on how to make your voice matter. Here is what you can learn from them:
Emma Stone: Determine your own values
While we live in a world where women are unfortunately often held to high beauty standards, avoid the trap of believing that appearances alone will really guarantee success and happiness. In the Oscar-winning 2016 film La La Land, Emma Stone plays Mia, an aspiring actress who has a hard time finding work. A dramatic scene sees Mia breaking down at her career, bemoaning the fact that there will always be ‘someone prettier’ than her in the audition room. Yet it is ultimately Mia’s spark, charm, and ability to conjure a story on-the-spot that guarantees her big break. Cultivate an internal sense of self, personality, and orientation of values that matter to you; your beauty will be read and recognised by those who matter in turn.
Gigi Hadid: Appreciate hard work
Current Instagram it-girl and real estate heiress Gigi Hadid might be the last person you might expect to appreciate the importance of hard work. Yet even the biggest celebrities are reminded of how easily their success could fall away in the dog-eat-dog world of the entertainment industry. Hadid recounts some advice that her mother once told her: “If you are not the girl who is working harder than the other girls, there will be one more beautiful than you, one who is going to work harder than you’. For Hadid, it is ultimately hard work and a good attitude that helps her maintain her security and career; she reflects in an interview with Elle that “what’s important for me are the three things I go into every job saying: Be nice, work hard, make a friend’.
Mindy Kaling: Don’t undersell yourself
Actress and writer Mindy Kaling is the creator, producer, and star of her own show The Mindy Project, having previously been executive producer and actor of the American version of The Office. In an industry where women are often relegated to size-2 bottle-blonde ‘girlfriend roles’, Kaling is a rare exception of a woman in the entertainment industry who has become master of her own narrative. Her secret? Never underestimate yourself. ‘I have a personality defect where I refuse to see myself as an underdog’, she admitted in a Sundance Film Festival panel on women in Hollywood; ‘it has gotten me in a lot of trouble, but is also the reason for my success’.
Tina Fey: Know when to ignore criticism
‘Emotional labour’, described as the ‘invisible labour’ done to manage and maintaining healthy relationships, is often disproportionately done by women. Our energies, as a result, are constantly overextended. However, it’s important to recognise your limits, especially when it comes to unpleasant people or over-demanding situations. In her memoir Bossypants, comedian and executive producer Tina Fey offers a handy breakdown for when to ignore or disengaged from someone’s negativity or put-downs: is this person getting in the way of what I want? If not, forget it! If so – is there any way of getting around this person to get what you want? This is, of course, not to suggest that you should become a doormat. While you should hold onto, and stand up for your own values, you should also remember that you can choose what will affect your emotional state, and what is worth listening to – and what should be ignored.
Lady Gaga: Be your own best friend
If you feel overwhelmed by your insecurities, you are not alone – in fact, you share something very personal with one of the world’s most celebrated pop artists. At the height of her fame in 2010, Lady Gaga revealed that ‘When I wake up in the morning, I feel like any other insecure 24-year-old girl. Then I say, ‘you’re Lady Gaga, you get up and walk the walk today’. Insecurities are part of being human; do not feel ‘less than’ for struggling with self-esteem! Accept that they exist, but don’t forget to remind yourself of your good qualities, and to take on the world with that self-love and energy. Be like Gaga, and be your own best friend.
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